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4 reasons why maternity leave is NOT A VACATION

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“You must be enjoying time with the kids during maternity leave!”

“How is it being a new mum with no work in the office?”

” At least with your time off on your maternity leave, you can rest and sleep as much as you like. The cute newborn must be so special to make you stay home that way. So cool, right?”

If you have been pregnant and gone on maternity leave to welcome your bundle of joy, these words are way too familiar. Said by fellow workmates or friends without an ounce of wrong intentions, they surely cut deep. Why you ask?

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READ ALSO: 5 tips for a healthy pregnancy

You are sleep deprived

Spare yourself and don’t stay up late watching Netflix before becoming a parent. Because when you surely become one, sleep will be a thing of the past. You suddenly have to kiss sleep goodbye as you deal with whines and cries all night. Even if you apply our recommended tips to help your baby sleep longer, you are bound to suffer.

For that reason, maternity leave is a period filled with eyebags, which make-up can do little to hide. As far as the dictionary shows, vacays are a time for sleep, relaxation, and unwinding. Total opposites for a new parent.

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Juggling a newborn is a new job

You can do your best to maximize your maternity leave. However, nobody tells you how hard and how unprepared you realize you are for the new job. It is more like being given a whole file of documents for a totally new concept at work. Only with harder repercussions and any mistake may lead to death. With such high stakes, maternity leave seizes to be a vacation.

On a vacation, you are expected to rest not work! If you did not know, pregnancy is just a tip of the ice bag of the workload that awaits you.

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No one prepares you mentally for parenting

When going on vacation, you spend all year saving, buying new clothes for the period and packing your bag for what you may need. Your mind is in tune that you will be going to relax. Unfortunately, even with preparations for birth, nobody prepares someone well enough for parenting. Especially so because each experience is unique.

Your child may be born prematurely or you may have a traumatic birth. With so much happening, the mental load can overwhelm somebody. Nothing close to the deal you get during a vacation.

There is no reward for the new job

Some organizations offer remuneration packages for the maternity leave period. Others, it is your salary. For some, you may get nothing, worse still, be fired. Whichever the case, no amount of money surmounts to the new parenting job bestowed upon you. In fact, children come with financial demands that can weigh your pocket down more than a vacation does.

It has little to do with ‘rewarding yourself for your hard work’ as is the vacation mood. Parenting brings out the vibe of ‘you have to keep making more money to be spent on a job that you will hold forever, without a reward’.

Maternity leave is a time where women nurse wounds, have sores and aches from different body parts with fluids oozing from different corners. It is a moment that amidst all these happenstances, she is expected to muster the courage, love her child, run her household and embrace her postpartum body. The least we can do is to empathize, encourage and celebrate this woman. For not even her employer is as demanding as a newborn baby.

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

Click here to read our March issue 2026

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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