The 11th day of October every year is International Girl Child Day. This year, the day was marked on Tuesday last week with the main focus in Kenya being mental health problems, early child marriages and the alarming teenage pregnancies. Other issues such as Teen pregnancies, mental health, FGM and early child marriages also came to light. The celebrations this year come at a time when Kenya is witnessing an alarming increase in the number of teen pregnancies recorded which stands at 45,724 cases (18%) according to data from the Ministry of Health. As a result, Kenya ranks , third highest in teen pregnancies in the world.
December is fast approaching and with it comes a lot of festivities some of which are detrimental to the well-being of girls. As parents and guardians, it is the high time to have the awkward conversations with your children. Some of the topics that you could address, that are otherwise frowned upon are:
The sex talk
The sex talk is one of the topics that parents find hard to discuss with their children. Unfortunately, not discussing sex places the child at a disadvantage due to the availability of misleading information. As a result, discussing sex with your children with the aim of informing and educating them is necessary.
Make them aware of the negative effects of early sex which include as early pregnancies,dropping out of school, childbirth complications and child care responsibilities when they should be in school.
Here are some starters:
Abstinence; teach them on the importance of abstinence until they come of age
Inform them on sexual health & rights.
Have a frank talk about early pregnancies, its consequences and how it affects their life
Talk openly about relationships. Also create a safe environment where they can talk about anything.
In the recent past, there have been cases of children committing suicide, evidence that even children are susceptible to mental health issues. As parents normalize having conversations on mental health issues.Create a safe space where your child can share their concerns varying from (anxiety, panic attacks, depression and other issues causing them sleepless nights) without fear of being judge or misunderstood. Also remember to seek professional help for your child where necessary.
Eradicate the oppressing tradition of FGM
Even though Kenya has come a long way in the fight against FGM, the practice is still there in some areas. FGM is a painful experience for the young girls who go through it. Many victims suffer depression due to lack of a safe space to share their traumatic experience and fall into depression. Start helping by breaking down stereotypes attached to FGM, the fear, the shame and prejudice. Educate girls on their right of deciding what happens to their body and refuse communal pressure to undergo the cut. Also, support the victims by listening and avoid ridiculing.
She is a child, not a bride
Early child marriages are not only practiced in nomadic communities but also in towns and cities across the country. Early marriages expose young girls to gender-based violence, sexual abuse and both physical & mental manipulation. Holding workshops in schools as well in villages gives young girls the chance to voice their problems and seek help. Involving mothers in promoting the importance of education, also, goes along way in the fight against the vice.
Peer pressure: the plight of many teenagers
Many teenage girls make poor decisions for example premature entry into romantic relationships due to peer pressure. In this digital era, almost every young girl has access to at least one social media platform where they meet strangers and socialize with peers. Moreover, platforms such as dating apps are easily accessible to them. Unfortunately, these expose them to sneaky relationships with strangers. As a parent;
It is crucial to have conversations regarding relationships with teen girls.
Protect them from cyber bullying, heart breaks and abuse.
Talk about red flags, healthy relationship tips, and the risks of online dating .
Create an approachable environment where they share and not hide their relationships.
Promote a body positive mindset
Educating young girls on self-appreciation is a task that every parent, guardian should take on in the wake of demeaning comments on body image on social media. You can;
Teach young girls on physical and mental changes. This helps keep their self-esteem up.
Teach them on feminine hygiene, hormonal imbalance, skin health, weight and body acne. this helps them aware that it is part of growth.
Preach self-love to the youngsters. Let them know it’s important to be kind to one self.
Sensitize them on their rights and overall well being
Equipping young girls with information on reproductive health, sexual rights and menstrual periods doesn’t expose them to explicit information but weakens female stereotypes. Teach your daughter about their menses, how to say ‘NO’ in uncomfortable situations and their rights as a girl child. All these protect them from manipulation, equips them with knowledge regarding their well being and makes them open and confident discussing these topics in the future.
As the crescent moon appears in the night sky, marking the end of the ninth month of the Islamic lunar calendar, millions of people around the world transition from a period of deep reflection to one of vibrant celebration. Eid ul-Fitr, often called the “Festival of Breaking the Fast,” is one of the most significant dates in the calendar, representing a harmonious blend of spiritual accomplishment and communal joy.
Why is Eid al-Fitr celebrated?
Eid al-Fitr marks the conclusion of Ramadan, a month-long period where observers fast from dawn until sunset.The celebration is, at its core, a way to show gratitude.After thirty days of practising self-discipline, patience, and increased charity, the festival serves as a reward for the spiritual “marathon” completed during the holy month.
It is also a time to celebrate the revelation of the Quran, which is believed to have begun during the final ten days of Ramadan. By completing the fast, individuals celebrate the strength and willpower they gained, reinforcing their commitment to their values for the year ahead.
The importance of the day
Eid ul-Fitr is far more than just a day off from work or a festive meal; it serves several critical functions:
It acts as a bridge between the intense devotion of the previous month and a return to daily life, carrying forward the lessons of empathy and mindfulness.
The day begins with a special congregational prayer. This gathering brings together people from all walks of life, emphasising equality and unity within the community.
A key pillar of the holiday is Zakat al-Fitr, a mandatory charity given before Eid prayers.This ensures that everyone, regardless of their financial status, can enjoy a festive meal and join the celebration.
What does Eid al-Fitr mean?
While the literal translation is “the feast of breaking the fast,” the deeper meaning of Eid revolves around renewal.
Many view the day as an opportunity to start fresh. It is a traditional time for reconciling differences, forgiving past grievances, and strengthening bonds with family and neighbours.
After experiencing the hunger and thirst of a fast, the “Fitr” (breaking of the fast) takes on a profound meaning. It is a moment to appreciate the necessities of life (food, water, and health) that are often taken for granted.
Beyond the religious context, it is a day defined by hospitality. Homes are opened, special sweets are shared, and children often receive gifts or Eid (money), creating a sense of wonder and belonging that lasts a lifetime.
Common traditions around the world
While customs vary by region, a few hallmarks remain constant:
Wearing new or best-quality clothes to honour the occasion.
In many cultures, the holiday is nicknamed the “Sweet Eid” due to the variety of desserts, like sheer khurma or baklava, served to guests.
The universal phrase used to wish others well is “Eid Mubarak,” which translates to “Have a blessed Eid.”
In essence, Eid al-Fitr is a beautiful reminder that discipline leads to joy, and that the greatest celebrations are those shared with others.
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As the crescent moon appears in the night sky, marking the end of the ninth month of the Islamic lunar calendar, millions of people around the world transition from a period of deep reflection to one of vibrant celebration. Eid ul-Fitr, often called the “Festival of Breaking the Fast,” is one of the most significant dates in the calendar, representing a harmonious blend of spiritual accomplishment and communal joy.
Why is Eid al-Fitr celebrated?
Eid al-Fitr marks the conclusion of Ramadan, a month-long period where observers fast from dawn until sunset.The celebration is, at its core, a way to show gratitude.After thirty days of practising self-discipline, patience, and increased charity, the festival serves as a reward for the spiritual “marathon” completed during the holy month.
It is also a time to celebrate the revelation of the Quran, which is believed to have begun during the final ten days of Ramadan. By completing the fast, individuals celebrate the strength and willpower they gained, reinforcing their commitment to their values for the year ahead.
The importance of the day
Eid ul-Fitr is far more than just a day off from work or a festive meal; it serves several critical functions:
It acts as a bridge between the intense devotion of the previous month and a return to daily life, carrying forward the lessons of empathy and mindfulness.
The day begins with a special congregational prayer. This gathering brings together people from all walks of life, emphasising equality and unity within the community.
A key pillar of the holiday is Zakat al-Fitr, a mandatory charity given before Eid prayers.This ensures that everyone, regardless of their financial status, can enjoy a festive meal and join the celebration.
What does Eid al-Fitr mean?
While the literal translation is “the feast of breaking the fast,” the deeper meaning of Eid revolves around renewal.
Many view the day as an opportunity to start fresh. It is a traditional time for reconciling differences, forgiving past grievances, and strengthening bonds with family and neighbours.
After experiencing the hunger and thirst of a fast, the “Fitr” (breaking of the fast) takes on a profound meaning. It is a moment to appreciate the necessities of life (food, water, and health) that are often taken for granted.
Beyond the religious context, it is a day defined by hospitality. Homes are opened, special sweets are shared, and children often receive gifts or Eid (money), creating a sense of wonder and belonging that lasts a lifetime.
Common traditions around the world
While customs vary by region, a few hallmarks remain constant:
Wearing new or best-quality clothes to honour the occasion.
In many cultures, the holiday is nicknamed the “Sweet Eid” due to the variety of desserts, like sheer khurma or baklava, served to guests.
The universal phrase used to wish others well is “Eid Mubarak,” which translates to “Have a blessed Eid.”
In essence, Eid al-Fitr is a beautiful reminder that discipline leads to joy, and that the greatest celebrations are those shared with others.
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Modern times have pushed the narrative of moving out at 20 or 21, and it has largely been embraced. While the parents’ home is seen as a free place you pay for with your mental health, it is a strategic base for many and a point of debate for others.
Let’s explore both sides of this dilemma, using the case of Kenyan creator Hoch Muhoro to anchor the conversation.
Is moving out a strategic sanctuary or stunted growth?
For decades, the metric of success for a young African adult was defined by finishing school, getting a job, and getting your own roof. To stay a day longer was to invite whispers of a failure narrative. However, as the cost of living in cities like Nairobi skyrockets and the digital economy changes how we work, the rules of independence are being rewritten.
Hoch Muhoro redefining narratives
The conversation recently reached a fever pitch following the story of Hoch Muhoro, a Kenyan digital creator who lives with his mother. To traditionalists, his situation is an anomaly, perhaps even a failure. But to a growing number of digital nomads and strategic savers, Hoch represents a bold counter-narrative.
Hoch argues that his choice isn’t about an inability to provide but about companionship, care, and the rejection of societal timelines that don’t serve the individual. His relationship with his mother, documented with transparency, highlights a shift from dependence to intentional cohabitation.
The argument for moving out
Proponents of moving out early argue that the cold world is the only place where true character is built. There is a unique psychological drive that comes from knowing your next meal depends entirely on your hustle. This survival mode often sparks the creativity and resilience needed to excel in competitive industries.
Living alone offers the freedom to fail, to host, and to explore one’s identity without the background noise of parental expectations or curfews. In many circles, including the dating market, living at home carries a stigma of immaturity that can be hard to shake, regardless of your bank balance.
The argument for staying home
On the flip side, the Hoch Muhoro approach offers benefits that the struggle-to-pay-rent lifestyle cannot match. By eliminating rent, individuals can funnel that capital into investments, equipment for digital creation, or emergency funds.
The isolation of life alone can be brutal. Multigenerational living provides a support system that wards off the loneliness often associated with early adulthood. Living at home also allows adult children to support ageing parents, creating a symbiotic relationship rather than a parasitic one.
Context is necessary
Is it better to move out? The answer is not a yes or no, but a when and why. If staying at home makes you lazy, complacent, and fearful, it is a cage. But if, like Hoch Muhoro, it provides the peace of mind to create and the opportunity to cherish family bonds, then it is a strategic advantage.
Independence isn’t just about having your name on a lease; it’s about the ability to make decisions that best serve your future self. Maybe the most adult thing you can do is ignore the neighbours and stay where you are supported.
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