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6 ways to safeguard your family’s mental health

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After a long day’s work, one dreams of going home to find shelter and peace from the noise and the hot rays of the unforgiving world. Home is indeed a place where one should find comfort. and open arms to receive them regardless of how they come in. Is this the case in your home? Is your home the safest place for you and your family members?

A lot needs to be done to make our houses a home, which is an important and basic need of human beings. When there is no peace in a home, the mental wellness of the family members becomes challenged. Mental wellness needs to start at home.

Statistics show that people who carry major childhood scars from dysfunctional families may end up with mental health issues in adulthood. Some may have experienced insensitive actions from family members, ranging from impulsive actions against each other, physical abuse of children by parents, hurting words said in anger, parental favouritism, whether real or imagines, and more.

A home should be a place where family members find comfort and security. We should be deliberate in our actions to ensure avoidable mental health issues do not begin in the family. The following tips from the word of God can help us improve our family’s mental health?

Listen to understand

There is a difference between listening and waiting to speak. Regardless of your age, let every family member feel heard and considered. Let everyone feel like they matter; like they can be trusted and that their opinion counts. Take time to listen and listen to understand; not to answer. The good book says, “If one gives an answer before he hears, it is his folly and shame.”

Understand that every family is different

There are many people today teaching about parenting and family life. Many are doing it with a lot of pre-supposition and prejudices. Remember there is a way that seems right, but leads to destruction. Learn your family and understand each of them. You will realise that when you learn to understand your people, you will have no time to judge them. There can never be a substitute for understanding; it is the backbone of every homely family.

Learn that every family member is different

Though we come from the same family, we all see things differently and it’s not a bad thing. It is because Gods wisdom calls variety beautiful. We were all meant to take different paths. Our paths being different means that our make-up is different. Our interpretation of things is different. We need to learn to appreciate this and embrace each other.

Recognise that people have reasons why they do what they do

Just the mere fact that you wouldn’t do something the way another one does it does not mean that they are wrong. Find a way of looking at it from their perspective. Just because you do not understand doesn’t mean that they are wrong.

Differentiate opinion and fact

Most of us impose our opinions on others. Whenever you see other people’s decisions and realise that you would have decided otherwise, learn to respect their opinions and distinguish objective facts from what is your own subjective path. Let us each make an effort and see what our families can become.

Find strength in each other

Start at home. Proverbs 17:17 says, “Friends love all the time, and kinsfolk are born for times of trouble.” Be sure to care and help when one is not able to do it for themselves. Look out for each other.

Look out for the following symptoms in any of your family members and seek professional advice as soon as possible, as they could escalate to serious mental health conditions:

• Confused thinking or problems concentrating and learning

•Extreme mood changes, including uncontrollable ‘highs or feelings of euphoria Prolonged or strong feelings of irritability or anger

•Avoiding friends and social activities

•Difficulties understanding or relating to other people

•Changes in sleeping habits or feeling tired and having low energy

•Changes in eating habits such as increased hunger or lack of appetite

• Changes in sex drive

•Difficulty perceiving reality (delusions or hallucinations, in which a person experiences and senses things that don’t exist in objective reality)

• Inability to perceive changes in one’s own feelings, behavior or personality.

• Overuse of substances like alcohol or drugs

• Multiple physical ailments without obvious causes (such as headaches, stomach aches,vague and ongoing “aches and pains”)

•Thinking about suicide

• Inability to carry out daily activities or handle daily problems and stress

•An intense fear of weight gain or concern with appearance

If you need to talk, you can reach out to a toll free line for a psychologist on call through 1190 (at LVCT) or feel free to reach out to me through 0727209170 for advice and support

This issue was first published in our September 2022 issue From the Pulpit column.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

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Elizabeth Nzisa: The Firstborn Who Became a Mother Overnight

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While most teenagers spend their days focused on school, friendships, and dreams for the future, Elizabeth Nzisa, fondly known as Shiku, was forced to grow up much faster than she ever imagined. At only 17 years old, she found herself taking on the role of a mother to her three younger siblings after her family was hit by tragedy not once, but twice.

Her story, shared in an emotional interview, is a powerful reflection of strength, sacrifice and the deep bond between siblings. Elizabeth recalls the moment her life changed completely. Her mother died while giving birth to their youngest sibling, a baby boy. In the middle of that painful loss, their father walked away from the family, leaving Elizabeth alone with a newborn and two other young children to care for.

Mama yetu alipass 2024, Feb. Alipass akipata haka katoto kadogo. Dad naye akatuacha akaenda

 

Becoming a Mother Too Soon

She explains that she had no choice but to step up and become the parent in the house. She raised her youngest brother from the day he was born, and to this day he calls her mum, not knowing she is actually his big sister. That detail alone shows how much responsibility she carried at such a young age. She became the provider, the protector, the caregiver, and the emotional support for her siblings while she was still trying to understand life herself. With little help from relatives, Elizabeth had to find ways to survive, balancing school when she could, doing small jobs and making sure her siblings were fed, safe and loved.

The journey was not easy. She faced financial struggles, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure of trying to stay strong even when she felt overwhelmed. There were moments when she doubted herself and wondered if she was doing enough. Still, her story is not about defeat. It is about endurance. Elizabeth talks about finding strength through faith, support from the people around her, and the determination to keep her family together no matter how hard things became.

Over the years, she made sure her siblings stayed in school, had food on the table, and grew up feeling loved despite everything they had lost. What could have been a completely broken home became a family held together by her sacrifice and commitment.

Many viewers reacted emotionally, saying the story moved them to tears. Some described firstborn daughters as second mothers, while others said her life shows the kind of courage people rarely see but should never forget.

 

Click here to read our March issue 2026

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Endometriosis and sex: How to make intimacy pain-free

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There is no doubt that endometriosis can affect a woman’s way of life. The condition slews a couple of conditions, painful sex being one of them. Penetration pulls and pushes any tissue growth behind the vagina and lower uterus.

Although symptoms may differ from woman to woman, here are some things you can do to lessen your pain and ensure you have some good time:

Take a dose of painkillers

Take an over the counter painkiller that sits well with your body before intercourse and incase pain persists, take another one as prescribed.

Track your cycle and try at certain times of the month

Most women with endometriosis experience excruciating pain during their period and ovulation. Keep track of your cycle so that you can know when you are ovulating. You can use apps like my calendar and flo period tracker to track your periods. This will help you know when best to engage in sexual intercourse.

READ ALSO: Crucial Facts About Endometriosis Everyone Should Know About

Use lube

Vaginal dryness is not something to be ashamed of and if you happen to have it, lube should be your best buddy. Make sure to use any silicon or water based lubricant anytime you feel like your vagina is dry. Ensure the application is of good amount to achieve a wet area.

Explore alternatives

Talk with your partner about things that turn you on and bring you pleasure. Just to mention a few; mutual masturbation, foreplay, kissing and mutual fondling. Sex does not have to mean intercourse.

Try different positions

Experimenting different positions can teach you and your partner which ones hurt and the ones that bring direct pleasure with no or less pain. Positions that are considered better vary from person to person so take the time to explore and learn yourself with your partner.

Find the right rhythm

Finding the right rhythm can help you experience less discomfort during sex. Quick thrusting or deep penetration can aggravate pain. Talk to your partner about that which you do not like and find ways that will satisfy the both of you like exchanging positions so that you can control the speed and rhythm.

Bottom line

Intimacy does not have to be boring, painful or make you hate the condition that you have. Talk openly about your feelings around sex and penetration and what would help to ease your concerns.

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